Friday, September 22, 2006
hey class,K let me first clarify that i in no way mean to hurt any one of you all or mean insult of any kind. However i do feel that i need to voice out. Its something all the guys lament about and i guess i should actually bring it forth.
Firstly, i admit that guys and girls are different. We have different taste, styles, and humour, among other things. However i do believe that no matter what there should always be compromise on both sides. I have no qualms about following people to go shopping or even to look at make up. i've done it before! but similarly i do believe girls should at least entertain the guys a bit if we wanna say look at some comics or muck about a bit as we guys normally do. However this is where the problem arises. Both the guys and the girls in the class do not seem to meet in a middle ground. Oh wait let me stop that thought they do not even seem to communicate!
The guys have no clue none whatsoever what the girls in class want to do. Similarly the girls also have a wrong impression of the guys. Lets be honest with this, besides a few individuals, the guys in class would rather be out at a movie or doing something else other than get stuck in a LAN shop. We only would willingly enter a LAN shop if the urge gets to us. After all we normally play at home for free so why bother to go to a LAN shop. So yeah if either side are both clueless as to what each want to do then how do we do anything?
This problem arises again when it comes to class 'events'. Notice that whenever an 'event' is organised it is either an all guy organising team comprising of ben, ht and i or an all girl organising team of vanessa, yun min and joanna. But look at the wonderful results it achieves. When guys organise anything no girls come and when the girls organise anything the guys always leave feeling as though they have wasted their time. On top of that let me point out some facts. Whenever anybody organises anything they bloody hell tank the whole freaking thing from buying food to calling to organising. Can i point out that 1. It is tiring 2. It is frustrating 3. so dun complain it just adds insult to injury ( and trust me the complains always find their way to the organising people ) 4. Have you ever thought of helping? (chipping in...and not just sitting on your ass and expect a sliver platter to fall on your lap) For this i am not targeting any sex i am talking about the whole class. YES both guys and girls.
So tell me what type of class do we have? what is this thing called class spirit? What? a shirt though i admit was nice of pei qi to draw for us but the class was SOOO cooperative in getting together. A class shirt to be honest is not about the shirt it is about the process of getting it and making it and designing as a class. Pei qi i applaud her did almost everything. From drawing to buying to printing and she did a good job but it should be called pei qi's shirt. Not class shirt.
You guys all only go through jc only once. What do you wish to remember about these years? The closest friends most adults have are actually their JC friends, or for our parents that only had 6 year courses, and their secondary school friends. In university you do not have a class at all, you will never get a chance to form such a close bond between people as a class is supposed to have. Yet we just throw this oppurtunity away? Does friendship mean so little to you? are the years here just for show on an A level cert...
Agreed that you may not like everybody. Agreed some people get on your nerves or some people seem to pick on you. But is that not what a class is all about. Is that not what friends are all about. That regardless of all their idiosyncrasies you can always count on them to help you in times of need. Maybe i have been blessed. In my last two classes over the past 4 years i have amassed two class full of friends. These are people i see no more than once or twice a year but if i were to call one of them up at any time and asked for help i am very sure that will get it. Sure i have such friends in hwa chong but perhaps this is the saddest part, i know more of such people outside my class than inside... I have tried my best to change this and i have ignored many things hoping time will change... but i guess it just doesn't work in the end, I know burglars and thieves that i can call friends but i have some classmates that i can't...what does that say? None of you can deny my many attempts to foster friendships...but they seem to be shooting at a wall that just blocks out...
I am sorry to have to post something like this. But i believe that i should never hide what i truely feel. I hold no real angry or hatred for anybody, and never will but i do feel frustration and a sense of drifting as though i have nothing to anchor to. Perhaps i am too frank, emotional, spontaneous, random and loud. But i have always been this way and people have accepted me for it. My friends niao me like mad as we like to do among each other, we may not all fit like clockwork but we know each other, or lives and ways. Who knows maybe that is why we are friends? Not that we are alike but that we know each other and trust one another. Who knows?
As it stands this entry will only be viewed by a handful of people...the usual few that put in the effort to come and view the blog to find out about each other...to these people i applaud you...
A confused and frustrated Adam
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12:42 AM
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